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Increasing Self Confidence

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Self confidence is a psychological and emotional state which responds to the individual's need for self-acceptance and recognition. It is one of the oldest concepts, which describes realistic perception of oneself and one’s abilities. As such, self-confident individuals usually have a better knowledge of what they can achieve and are more likely to succeed in what they attempt. They are also more likely to accept and understand their mistakes.

Because they are able to trust their own abilities, self-confident people can do what they think is right and do not feel the need for the approval of others. They also inspire confidence: your friends, relatives, boss, employees or customers are most likely to believe in you or in what you are saying if you appear self-confident.

On the contrary, a lack of confidence might prevent you from believing your actions or decisions will eventually work out as you had planned. It can change the development of decision-making, planning and management abilities. The pre-occupation with how others will judge your work can also cause you to become overly self-critical
which can distract you from tasks you would otherwise be perfectly capable of performing.

Low self confidence will also affect your social life, as people with low self confidence tend to stay in their “comfort zone” and fear the risk of rejection. People with low self confidence fear the judgment of others and will avoid talking to new people, which can in turn lead to isolation and even lower self confidence. Low self confidence is a vicious circle that is hard to break.

Many people have low self confidence or are only able to gain self confidence in one or some areas of their lives because they constantly seek other people’s approval and are afraid of failing. Several factors, such as childhood traumas, can explain why people are not able to enjoy the wholesome life of a self confident person. These people also do not always know how to gain self confidence.

NLP has some very powerful confidence building techniques for challenging undermining beliefs that may hold us back from becoming the truly confident person we want to be. NLP can reach your mind and modify belief systems to boost self confidence. They are powerful tools that will help you address your fears and believe in yourself to develop self confidence.

We can all recall and associate into bad feelings at will. We can all create negative states with ease and end up feeling miserable and unresourcefull. All it requires is someone to say: "Remember that awful day when that terrible thing happened?"......  and we can enter this state and fill in the blanks at will. So why not spend a little time practicing creating positive feeling, so that the images you recall are the ones that make you feel good, and support you in your aims and desires.

A powerful NLP technique is to create a state of confidence, by recalling a time when we performed a task superbly,
and recounting what we were seeing, hearing and feeling. These associations and memories can put us in resourceful state. We practise imagining the feeling good state several times, and at the height of the experience we save that feeling so that we can recall it at will whenever we want confidence. 

Think of a time when you did something really well, go back in time and step into your body, 'see' what you see, 'feel' what you feel, 'hear' what you hear.

   
    * Recall that good feeling often, and carry it with you wherever you go;
    * Think of compelling futures when you want to motivate yourself to strive for something you really want.

In order to achieve any meaningful results, most people need guidance, support and feedback.
 

 

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